harness your inner critic challenge
Free Facebook Challenge
September 10-15, 2023
Why do we waste so much time…
. . . doubting ourselves
. . . spinning in indecision
. . . putting everyone else’s needs first
. . . FEELING LIKE NO MATTER WHAT WE DO, IT’S NEVER ENOUGH
. . . WHILE beating ourselves up for not getting it all done perfectly?
. . . And How do we get that exhausting self critic TO show up when we need her . . . and stfu when we don’t?
harnessing your inner critic
step one
Identify how evolutionary biology and female socialization combine to create danger signals in our bodies leading to fight, flight, freeze and fawn responses
step two
Learn to spot the signs when this is showing up and undermining you, and clarity on how this underpins our day to day lives
step three
Understand ways to address these responses in the moment as well as how to address the underlying cause of all of it (our thoughts)
Join the challenge!
Learn why we
People please to the point of resentment
Allow self doubting thoughts to keep us from living our best lives
Burn ourselves out trying to do it all perfectly
Are always crowdsourcing our decisions instead of choosing the life we want
Are so profoundly unkind to ourselves
5 days to
harness your inner critic
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We’ll kickoff the week with a BONUS session on our brains and bodies as well as the foundation of mindset work. This short primer will underpin everything that we’ll learn during the challenge!
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People pleasing is toxic and a survival technique. People socialized as women are validated and praised for selflessness and are taught our value comes from what we can offer, either by our appearance or in service of others. So of course we’re going to try to ensure that everyone around us is comfortable and happy. The question is, where does it start to hurt us?
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Self doubt shows up in every area of a woman’s life from body image to relationships to parenting to work. So much so that researchers have coined the “Confidence Gap” in studies that show that people socialized as women tend to underestimate their abilities and are more cautious about taking risks when compared to men which may contribute to further self-doubt and hinder women from pursuing opportunities or reaching their full potential.
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When we are operating from fear this shows up as people pleasing as we covered in part one, when we are operating from anxiety, it shows up as self doubt. On day 3, we’ dive into how and why we are always chasing validation. Why we think we need that graduate degree or job title or partner before we can feel accomplished, qualified or lovable. (You’ll also meet the validation fairy)
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Because women are taught that our value comes from service of others, we seek that validation through people pleasing and doubt ourselves because we haven’t learned how to tap into the self confidence that lies within. In day 4, we dive into decision making. How this shows up in analysis paralysis or consulting every expert and friend hoping to make the “right” decision so we won’t beat ourselves up later.
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Taking control of your self critical voice is the key to claiming your authority, being decisive, and to stop chasing validation from others. This is where you start to cultivate a safe and trusting relationship with yourself and have your own back no matter what happens. And when you have your own back, you are absolutely unstoppable!
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At the end of the week, we’ll work through what we’ve learned, reinforce the most important points and give clear guidance and what to do next!
learn how to…
Prioritize your own interests, needs and boundaries
Make decisions faster and with more confidence
Validate your own feelings and opinions
Approach conflict with less anxiety
Handle rejection or criticism without personalizing or internalizing it
Regulate your emotional responses to things beyond your control
Replace negative thought patterns
Improve cognition and problem-solving abilities
Free yourself of blame, shame, guilt, and self-doubt
sign up today!
Sign up today and we’ll kick off with a bonus primer video on thoughtwork. Each day for five days, I’ll post a new video along with some questions for reflection that you can write on privately or discuss with the other challenge participants in the Facebook group. At the end, I’ll go live in the group to bring it all together to answer questions, do some live coaching, and set you on the path of harnessing your inner critic.
What others have to say…
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— Leah BK.
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— Heidi H.
“I've noticed such a positive change in all areas of my life - situations that previously would have overwhelmed me are totally manageable now. I'm less anxious (fewer Sunday Scaries), more clear-headed, and able to be more productive both inside and outside of work. I'm so glad I took the leap and worked with Gretchen!”
— Leah Km.
“I needed the mindset work Gretchen specializes in to help me understand what it is I really, truly wanted, and how to set up my life to accomplish it. It was about digging deep, understanding my true self and beliefs, and then working through that to both set goals that truly fit with what I wanted and to be able to recognize the mental blockers that were holding me back, along with the tools to overcome those blockers.”
— robin D.
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— tina s.
“The way that Gretchen deftly weaves in her feminist studies into her mindset work is both unique and invaluable. She helped me uncover a lot of patriarchal ideas I would have sworn I didn’t have so that I could look at them in the light of day. It was this awareness that allowed me to start making changes that have massively lowered my anxiety and helped me be more present in my daily life.”